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Spif (my wonder partner and fellow therapist) and I have been leading a number of libido boot camps. Think couples evenings that take 4 hours to go through the common libido killers and how to fix them. We’ve been taking about hormones, romance, date nights, supplements, tantric sex, abundant health, and feeling sexy. It’s been eye opening to see how some couples are stuck when ... -
I’ve just finished the easy read – Shopping for Mr. Right. How to choose the right guy and get the most out of him by J.M. Kearns. A proactive little book that claims “You know how to shop for the perfect pair of heels, the airy apartment, and the cool smartphone. What if you could land your dream man the same way?” I’ve long preached the idea that you need to ... -
Hi Sue, My new husband absolutely loves it when I touch him underneath his testicals. He’s now asking for more and more in that spot. He also wants me to stimulate him anally and touch his prostate. I’ve never done this and I’m a little freaked out by the prospect. Is this normal? Could I hurt him? Where do I start? A little squeamish Dear Squeamish, That’s a great ... -
My sweetie is going to be Neil Armstrong for Halloween. We bought all of the Apollo mission patches at the Kennedy Space Centre when we were there in April and we have everything but the spray painted rubber boots. More than anyone he would love to have dinner with the legendary astronaut. (The offer is genuine if Mr. Armstrong happens to read this blog. Sir, we’ll meet you and buy ... -
Hi Sue, I am writing to ask about semen enhancement pills. My partner enjoys large amounts of ejaculate and I’m wondering if these pill work or what can I do to increase the volume? L. Dear L, As women we often wonder about what is the big deal about producing loads of ejaculate (cum) when a man finally climaxes. It means more mess down the inside of your leg and it has nothing to do ... -
New study suggests that men with erection problems can be improved with a 5% weight loss Erection problems can be improved if you do some work and minimize the obvious causes. The seven leading causes of erectile dysfunction are: 1. Diabetes 2. High blood pressure mediation 3. Anti depressants 4. High cholesterol 5. Smoking and Drinking 6. Prostate problems ... -
The Sex Therapist’s recipe for increasing libido by Sue McGarvie I have been seeing some commonalities in the libido patients who have come to my office. Smart, savvy women who self identify as “being in fantastic relationships” struggling with low libido. They come to me so frustrated that nothing has worked up to now. Man of them talk to me about seeing their doctors who suggest that ... -
When I met Gene Simmons and Shannon Tweed last summer when KISS was in town for Bluesfest. He was definitely checking out the boobs of all the women present. Well so was every other heterosexual man there so that’s nothing new. He is a legendary Lothario, even if he’s been in a relationship with Shannon for 28 years and they have a couple of kids. Super sexual, smart and ... -
The stats says that over 90% of women have faked an orgasm at one point in our lives. Half of women doing it regularly. Seriously. So if 90% of us have done it the question is why and how can a partner know if the climax she’s just had is the real thing? I had a patient yesterday who was in her early 50′s. She’s never had an orgasm in her life, shuts down and wants to get ... -
My ex-husband had size 13 or 14 shoes. I took a bunch of ribbing at my bridal shower about his perceived dick size based on the size of his feet. Well he was no slouch in that department, it wasn’t the shoe size that was indicative of his penis size. It was the ratio between his ring and index finger. It has long been understood that the fourth finger has to do with the amount of ... -
For budding sex therapists The University of Guelph is Ontario’s “sex school”. Every year they have a sexuality conference that was “a must attend” when I was studying to be a sex therapist. Guelph just put out an interesting paper about why men and women cheat. Women (it turns out) cheat because their relationship needs are being met. I always say that women ... -
There is another study that suggests if you take care of yourself you’ll get laid more. Duh you say? Well the new Danish research (home of oodles of hunky blonde guys) say that if we don’t make losing weight and eating right a priority, we’ll miss out on 91%(or 78% s you’re a guy) of the sex we could have had. It ties in with our discussion on weight loss and being ... -
I’ve long been telling my patients that there really are only 3 sexually transmitted infections that you can’t cure with a quick trip to the doctor. (well 4 if you count the 20% of people with Hep C) They are HIV, HPV (the virus that causes genital warts and herpes. Now apparently we can add gonorrhea to that list. In all fairness (and not to be a scaremongerer) it’s only ... -
Angelina Jolie says being pregnant has its perks. “It’s great for the sex life,” she tells Entertainment Weekly magazine. “It just makes you a lot more creative. So you have fun, and as a woman you’re just so round and full.” I love this quote and have been speaking with a friend who is a midwife about he benefits of sex during pregnancy. For many of my ... -
Everyone comes into a relationship with sensitivities from a previous relationship. Even if it is your first great love you may have dealt with tempers, substance abuse, parental infidelities that impact yor current relationship. The key to keeping it hot going forward is to own your past and not to let it get the best of you going forward. 1. You have an ex with a bad temper. This means ... -
So you are just out of a relationship, are married with no sex at home, want some variety or are to busy for a relationship. You don’t want complications, but would love to get your oil changed. Where do you go if you are simply looking for a quick hook up? How does one go out finding a casual sex partner? As a sex therapist I try to be in the know. I talk to thousands of people (in ... -
Having spent a bunch of time in Europe I celebrated many of the traditional pagan days that we don’t acknowledge in North America. May Day, Bastille Day and most importantly June 21st, the longest day of the year in the Northern Hemisphere. As a Canadian we have lots to celebrate with the sun. We have more than our share of long, cold months of winter, an like the beer commercial ... -
It’s an unbelievable picture. The picture of the couple kissing during the Vancouver hockey riot. If you’re not from Canada you might not understand how important hockey is to our culture. I watched game 7 of the Stanley Cup final along with the rest of my country and we were all devastated by the loss of the Vancouver Canucks to the Boston Bruins. Leaded the scoring and were ... -
I have a number of women coming to see me for dating advice in my practice. They are smart, beautiful, professional women from good families who are independent, have friends and who have no idea how to attract a guy. They set these unrealistic expectations about the perfect guy. He’s handsome, never married, willing to give them so much attention ad spend their waking hours planning ... -
Men like spontaneous sex. Maybe you knew that. Maybe you simply just suspected it. But in a discussion this week with a number of smart men I asked them what they would really, really like sexually. They all ranked sexual surprises and spontaneous sex first on a list of possible choices. I’m going to transcribe my survey and post it here and you can take the quiz about what you ... -
I’ve been reading about the G spot since 1980 in High school when Dr. Beverley Whipple presented it to the Scientific Study of Sexuality. I have been researching it since I first saw a woman squirt a milk bag full of ejaculate at a sex conference in California. Wild, sensuous and I wanted to know more. I have been writing about G spot orgasms since 1991 when I did my first interview ...
Sue, “Sex with Sue” McGarvie, international sex and relationship therapist and television host offers up the latest credible information on a variety of sexual topics and problems, to help you have the greatest sex of your life. School of sex Professor, syndicated talk show host, author and YOUR sex and relationship therapist.
Sue McGarvie is an internationally recognized sex and relationship therapist and Libido expert. She is the host of a syndicated talk show called Love and Lipstick (aired on Astral Media’s EZ Rock, CFRB, CJAD among other major market stations. Sue is also an award winning author of Quivering Jello, and The Libido Diet. Sue has been a named a Woman of Distinction (1997), the I. H. Asper Broadcast Entrepreneur of the Year (1998), Business and Professional Women’s Association Woman of the Year (1994). She also won an unprecedented award as Volunteer of the Year for 2002 for both Wired Women of Canada and Canadian Women in Communications for her work as National Mentorship Chair and Director. She is a Top 40 under 40 nominee and the 2010 Ontario Women in Community recipient. Sue currently sits on the advisory board of The National Press Club. She has been a sex and relationship therapist since 1993, and is one of the leading experts on intimacy, performance, and libido. She, (along with her partner and fellow therapist Blaik) have taught sex and relationships workshops and consulted in the US, Caribbean and write frequently published articles on great relationships. Her research on low sex drive and bio identical hormones is much sought after and she skypes and has phone therapy patients around the world. Her counseling practice is covered under all group health insurance plans, and she is accepting patients in person in Ottawa, and by webcam in other parts of the globe with guaranteed results.
