Its hard to find new ideas in sex. Face it, we’ve had the same equipment since we started walking upright. If you’ve read anything I’ve written before then you know how often I preach about the importance of keeping things spicy.
With a 51% divorce rate in North America, it takes real effort to maintain the magic of relationships. Trying new things in the bedroom is one of those key things.
So what’s new?
Glass Ben Wa balls
I love all glass toys. They heat up, they glide beautifully and the look elegant. What they also do is allow you (or your partner) to really take your time. Unlike vibrating toys, glass (or stainless steel) lets you settle in for a long, slow gradual build up. Immerse them in warm water and use them gently in and out of any orifice and feel the tension build. What the glass ben wa balls do is stimulate internally. The glass has a very interesting sensation. Ben wa balls have been made famous in the 50 Shades of Grey trilogy. Holding balls vaginally for women increases your muscle tone and helps your orgasm improve. They also get your juices flowing. Put them in and go walk the dog. I guarantee you’ll take the short way home.
Grapefruit blow job
You may have heard about it. Auntie Angel, a sex technique expert from Chicago invented a process fro using a hollowed out grapefruit in lieu of your hand when giving a blowjob. Angel says you need need to blindfold your partner, lie him down on a towel and turn a room-temperature grapefruit into a sex sleeve. Apparently grapefruit feels like oral sex and intercourse at the same time. Angel goes on to say that grapefruit is a fat burner, so you can lose weight while your are preforming oral sex. The only downside can be a slight burning on the urethra (I suggest some vaseline on the tip), and the need for an aggressive shampooing afterwards to get the grapefruit pulp out of his pubic hair (another reason to manscape). Forget kleenex boxes full of hand cream, or even the fleshlight, grapefruit blowjobs are the new milestone.
Watch Auntie Angel explain it here.
Clitoral and nipple pumps
These are the pumps you see in porn videos. The pump draws blood into the genitals and the nipples and causes engorgement. With proper use, you can enlarge and stimulate your clitoris using a high-tech vacuum pump. It utilizes the same concept as traditional penis pumps, and it feels good. These cylinders can also be used to create great stimulation or punishment with higher pressure levels. They engorge your nipples and make them extra sensitive. I recommend you spend the extra money and get the metal pump with the gauge. For both you are looking at close to $175 but I think they really work.
Make your own edible underwear
Really. The store bought ones are really gross licorice that stain your teeth. It’s basically homemade fruit roll ups cut out in an underwear pattern. I rarely wear underwear, but if I did I think the apple ones are super cool. Here are the instructions:
Things You’ll Need
1 bag of apples
1 cup water
1 cup sugar
Large pot
Cooking spray
Baking sheet
Plastic wrap
Kitchen scissors
Pattern
Chopstick
Make Apple Fruit Leather
Start by peeling a bunch of apples and place them in a large stock pot. Add water and boil until it looks like apple sauce. You can add a bit of sugar (1 cup) to make it taste sweet. Simmer for 45 minutes. Spray your baking sheets with cooking spray and spread the contents of the pot onto the sheets. Cook in a dehydrator or on a baking sheet in the oven at 150 degrees for 8 to 10 hours. I know it’s a long time to dry at low heat. Lay out your apple leather on plastic wrap to prevent it from sticking to your countertops. Lay another piece of plastic wrap over the top to keep it clean until your ready cut it.
Cut Your Pattern
Find an underwear pattern by using an old pair, finding a pattern online or at a local fabric store. Line up your underwear pieces and use the pointed end of a chopstick to poke holes in both sides of the edible underwear.
Weave licorice through the holes in the edible underwear to “sew” it together.
Wear and watch the reaction.
Erogenous Zones Sheet
My husband and I use this activity during our couples activities. We put up a large sheet and outline both the front and back of the body. Without looking at each others papers, mark the areas on the body where you think your sweetie likes (and the type, intensity) where they want to be touched. See how close you are to the truth. It allows for discussion and possible experimentation.
Make a couples photo album
Sex takes in all the senses, but none is more powerful than sight. Men especially are visual. Make a sexy couples photo album. Print out some pictures from your phone, pull up some great shots of the two of you when you were just meeting, and add a few sexy shots for their eyes only. What that does is bring back those feelings of falling in love. It gets you excited about making new memories together and really makes you feel like a couple. It will lead to feelings of connection and before you know it, you’re naked.
