For the over 15% of women who rarely achieve orgasm, sex can be a huge source of frustration.
Inability to achieve orgasm is the second most common female sexual dysfunction that Sex Therapists see clinically in their offices trailing only libido issues.1 With pat answers like “increasing the romance”, “lighting a candle” or ‘trying a new sex position for intercourse” women who can’t climax have been offered inane suggestions that haven’t resulted in sexual satisfaction. Women on the inorgasmia blogs describe feeling “shut down and confused”, or “ashamed that they don’t work properly sexually”. What women have been looking for are clear solutions in reaching climax.
There are a few new products that when coupled with current research suggestions offer up a step by step process for achieving orgasm. While there is no “one size fits all” when it comes to orgasm achievement, these suggestions sure help increase the odds. Here are five steps that women might try.
1. Women need to give themselves permission to achieve orgasm in whatever way their body needs to climax. It helps dramatically if women let go worries about what they look like, what they fantasize about or whether they are being sexual the right or wrong way. Editing your sexual thoughts go a long way to shutting down a sexual response. Women have a right to pleasure. Many women believe that the only right orgasm is one that is achieved through vaginal intercourse.
“Only 25 percent of women are consistently orgasmic during vaginal intercourse. This bears repeating: Only one-quarter of women reliably experience orgasm during intercourse-no matter how long it lasts, no matter what size the man’s penis, and no matter how the woman feels about the man or the relationship. This statistic comes not from just one study, but from a comprehensive analysis of 33 studies over the past 80 years by Elisabeth Lloyd in her fascinating book The Case of the Female Orgasm (Harvard University Press).”2
2. Adding a clitoral dilating cream (such as the Scream Cream with Sildenafil. See below for prescription) to the clitoris and labia 40 minutes before stimulation will help dilate the blood vessels in the entire genital region. It is blood flowing against nerve endings that help trigger orgasm.
3. Find something erotic. Again, there is no one size fits all but more women find story based movies or erotic literature arousing. Whatever individually appeals don’t edit it (50 Shades of Grey sold millions of copies) and allow yourself the time to become really turned on.
4. Start physically with 10 to 15 minutes of nipple stimulation. Dr. Prudence Hall of California says in her book Radiant Again and Forever that 10 minutes or more of nipple stimulation produces enough oxytocin for most women to become aroused enough to desire sex and increases the ability for most women to achieve orgasm.
5. Get a Zumio. The new Zumio is an award-winning toy and medical device that targets stimulation with pin-point accuracy. Some of the reviews about it include
“Different and more intense than anything else.”
“Wow, it sure lets me hit the right spots.”
“Mind-blowing! An orgasm in less than a minute and three in under ten!”
By understanding that each spot on your entire labia, clitoris and vaginal opening has different nerve endings, the Zumio toy can be used to target different areas. The Zumio offers both a circling motion along with vibration to help enhance blood flow to the area needed to achieve climax. Eight speed settings help women not to feel overpowered with too much sensation but also increase the intensity to extremely powerful when needed.
These steps offer up a great recipe for inorgasmia.
But there are also other ideas that troubleshoot inorgasmia. These include the application of muscle relaxants to the inside of the vaginal area to help increase blood flow. Grind up an over-the-counter Robaxin, suspend it in lube and insert it in vaginally. It helps with penetrative ease, and it also helps encourage openness of the complete vaginal area. The new Orgasm shot3 uses an injection of your own platelets (PRP) exactly where the blood supply and nerves to the G-spot lie. The spot grows in size and nerves multiply. In turn, the G-spot becomes easier to touch and delivers more sensation and an increased ability to reach orgasm.
Understanding your body and using the new technology available such as the Zumio medical device will help ensure that full orgasmic responses are available to all women.
Studies have reported that over 43% of women in North America experience little to no sexual satisfaction from clitoral orgasm and only 25% acheive orgasm with intercourse. In fact, according to the studies, numerous women between 18 and 80 do not even know what an orgasm is or how it is achieved.
Whether someone is multi-orgasmic or among the 43% of women who are sexually frustrated, any woman who desires maximum sexual fulfillment, greater intimacy, and enhanced relationships stands to benefit from regular use of Scream Cream.
Unlike the over-the-counter orgasm cream you buy at the sex store, Scream Cream packs a punch. Invented by my favourite pharmacist, Scott Watson at Watsons’s Pharmacy in Ottawa. I’m giving it to women along with a high end, high vibration toy (like a magic wand or intensity), scream cream is doubling the amount of women I’m able to offer suggestions that bring women to orgasm.
Scream cream contains a combination of prescription and non-prescription components described as blood flow enhancers and vasodilators. Each ½ gram dose contains Aminophylline 15-mg, Isosorbid dinitrate 1.25 mg, Ergoloid mesylate 0.25 mg, Pentoxifylline 25 mg, and L-Arginine 30-mg. Disolved in a water based hypoallergenic transdermal vehicle (think lube). The vehicle is designed to enhance the rate of absorption and to cause the medication to be retained locally in order to maximize local effects and metabolism while minimizing the potential side effects.
Scream cream should be applied directly to the clitoris (or the penis) at least 30 minutes prior to anticipated sexual relations and gently (or vigorously ) massaged in. The duration of effect ranges from 30 minutes to 2 hours and heightens both the ease of stimulation and intensity of orgasm.
Patients with a history of sensitivity to any of the ingredients should not use this product. Patients with a history of genital herpes should use this product with caution as L-Arginine may facilitate the reproduction of the herpes virus.
Scream cream is packaged in 30 multi-dose tubes.
2 or 4% sildenafil