Category: Men and sex, Erections, penis size etc.

How to duct take your willy

Duct_tape_2 Duct_tape So another story this week from a new premature ejaculator.  I was asking if he was circumcised, and he mentioned that he was, along with baby smooth all over. I asked in passing is he waxed or lasered (all the rage for cleaning up the shaft), and he said, "no, I duct tape myself."  oh?!, tell me more….

Apparently, he felt he couldn’t get someone else to clean up all that hair, so decided to take it on himself.  He uses duct tape (one of it’s million uses, not outlined on the Red Green show), to pull the hair out of the shaft a la waxing.  He said you get used to the pain, and now he only has to do it once a month, but is incredibly smooth.  He offered to show it to me, and I must admit to being tempted.  in the name of scientific, sexuality education of course. So, if you try this at home folks, please let me know.

Men as dogs…is it true?

So by now you may have discovered my secret obsession for schmaltzy chick lit. Chocolate and very light reading (I haven’t sunk as low as the bodice rippers, but they too have their appeal). Anyway, I’m in the book store yesterday and start flipping through a few books with a similar theme.  “So, he’s not that into you, Humble Howard’s book about men are snakes, and  Clare Naylor’s book Dog Training, “A good man is hard to train” cheeky, funny novel kept popping up between books on happily ever after, and getting the love you deserve. The idea that men are pigs, dogs, snakes (you name the species) when it comes to treating women well in relation to casual sex seems to come up over and over. Guy can do some bovine behaviour, and often can seemingly have a one track mind.  But can they be trained out of it?

I don’t know if I buy that. I think men are opportunistic, but then so are many women. You want to understand men, know that they are indeed ruled by their glands and have never, ever, been too busy to call a woman they were interested in.  The men I talk to describe their daily desires as accomplishing the big deal, (either in business or on the golf course), throwing down their woman and screwing her, eating, throwing down their woman and screwing her, fantasizing about having sex with other women, multiple women, sleeping, then repeat. I think men have hopes, dreams desires and aren’t that shallow, but they spend their days with the horniness buzzing around their heads to the point of distraction. Face it, men, like women are altogether entirely human.

I’m exploring the concept of training them (a la puppy 101) and I’ll keep you posted after I get through the stack of boy training books I bought yesterday. Maybe I’m wrong, maybe it does work…. 0345453387_01__bo2204203200_pisitbdp500a

 

 

 

 

It’s amazing how men keep from pulling out thier penis’s in polite company

Impotence I’m often astounded how guys hold it together.  How they don’t spontaneously combust – blow up from a serious lack of sex. The longer I’m a sex therapist, the more I believe that the average guy wants, and needs about 10 times the sex he’s usually getting. Most healthy men, in  a perfect world, would have sex a couple of times a day. These aren’t perverts, these are your husbands, brothers and fathers. Normal guys who think about sex all the time, and have to keep it under control.  It’s a wonder we don’t have any more date rapes, or men pulling it out at inappropriate times. How do they get any work done?  Hell, I know how distracted I am the few times a month when my hormones spike, but to feel that hourly, it must be a form of sweet torture.  I think we should have a national "change your man’s oil day".  Where we get the day off to boff like rabbits. I think it would increase our national productivity rate over the long haul

Those boys have got to have it

The continum of sexual desire.  It ranges from men who aren’t that interested in sex (few, far between, and usually are on anti-depressants, thyroid medication, or have another health issue) to the sexually addicted.

I’m meeting men every week who have to use the bathroom at work to masturbate. Guys, who if they could would have sex five times a day.  I have patients who can’t get out of bed in the morning without ejaculating, and another who jerks off over 7 or 8 times a day. And that was just a sample of last week’s sessions. All the guys who are talking to me, ( and a surprising number who have been sexually exposed or abused as kids) seem to tie sex into their basis self esteem. Men  think about sex the way that I think about chocolate.  It always seems to be calling them. What’s surprising to me, is how well most men handle it. Why we don’t have more date rapes, or more guys being sexually assertive given just how horny they are surprises me.  I guess that’s why the escorts I’m hearing about are doing so well. Most men, can’t seem to turn it off, and are finding some outlet.

So if you are a HAVE TO HAVE IT guy, then you are not alone.  And if you think your guy is doing without it, you are probably wrong.

is that semen running down your leg?

Semen The problem of sex and gravity.

No, I don’t mean the difficulty in hanging upseide down from the chandeliere during sex.  I mean the running-down-the-inside-of-your thigh-mess after sex.

Most women understand thatwhat I’m talking about. The phenomenon, when after sex, you have to run to the bathroom to get a towl to hold between your legs so you won’t gush…

The loving spoonful he’s just deposited, starts to liquifies once it has a few minutes in the warmth of the vagina, and then starts it’s downward ooze. Some women claim that if you get to the bathroom fast enough, you can deposit it as the quarter size dollup into the toilet.  This is why you need to have a bath, washcloth or better yet, a bidet to clean up after sex.  Otherwise you start smelling like a used condom that has been forgotten in the wastepaper basket…ick. Sperm

I’ve had a question recently, from a bunch of patients who noticed that their semen wasn’t as robust as usual.  Semen can change with diet, age, prostate problems, medication etc.  Given the mess it cause, a little less of a good thing might just be a great thing.

okay, so I see the banana like contraption in your pants…

Banana So, not to brag or anything, but I’ve see a few penises in my time.  I know, you’re shocked that a sex therapist who has worked in a sexual health clinic has, gasp, been exposed to the odd willy.  Not to mention the few (more than 5 and less than a dozen) that I’ve actually slept with.

Well, today I’m going to talk about the few very ODD willies I’ve seen. Dicks by another name, come in all colors, sizes, shapes, complete with their own odors, bumps and spots.  With an average size of 5 inches erect, some are cut (circumcised), some are hairy (you should have seen the bush on this one guy!!!!), and some look like a scared turtle peeking out of their shell.   Women know that universally, men are obsessed with their penis size.  They have all measured it. At least any guy I’ve ever spoken to about it. I saw one that had been botched during a circumcision (it looked like it had been whacked with a lawn mower – deep gashes around the head), and one that had been pierced three times down the shaft (forget writing your name in the snow anymore buddy).

But by far, the strangest dong that was ever flashed to me was the Jamaican giant who must have had a 13 inch penis.  It was, with no exaggeration, a freak of nature.  He was looking for a donut (otherwise known as a door stop) that prevents the penis from being inserted too deeply into a vagina.  I guess his partners had ran screaming into the night once they saw it erect. I know I would have, if I was thinking about sleeping with him.  He offered to show me, and I was too genuinely curious not to take him up on the offer. Black, freckled, and the size of the biggest peppermill you’ve ever seen.

Just thought you would be interested in know.

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Hanging his up by his nuts

Heart I’m reading this book about getting over the scum sucking ex’s in your life and how to have an exorcism in order to repair the karmatic unrest after the went and broke your heart.  Remeber the adage about “Hell having no fury like a woman scorned…”

Sue’s top 5 things to do if you want to get an ex out of your mind:

5. Burn all his pictures, and a list of all the things you hate about him, and the long letter you wrote and never sent him about how badly he/she hurt you.  Scatter the ashes to the wind.

4. Buy yourself something new and hot to wear and go out to get some new attention.  Hey nothing, I mean nothing, gets you back in the saddle like new, positive, opposite sex attention.

3. play pin the tail on the ex.  Take one of their pictures, stick it on the wall and use it as a pin cushion, or draw fangs, balckened teeth etc. Childish but fun.

2. Have a roast. Invite your friends and family over and toast all the bad things about him/her.  It’s amazing what comes up and is totally cathartic.

1. Finally, forgive and move on.  I know it’s hard, but you won’t always feel this way.  Fake it until you make it (ie. pretend to be happy and over them, because your brain will start to do just that.  Remember, the Chinese adage, that living well is the best reward.

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hello Mr. prostate, I’m happy to prod you

Prostate2Urologists say that every man who lives long enough will have trouble with their prostate.  My favourite expression is that get to know it guys, because it will bite you in the ass when you least expect it.

It’s a cool thing, the prostate. Like a little donut, it circles the vas defrens (the tube that brings semen out of the body).  It produces most of the fluid in cum or ejaculate, and lines up perfectly on xray with the female G-Spot. So it’s guy’s P spot,or g equivalent and can give you a "different" kind of orgasm when stimulated.  Not like the visit to the proctologist, that’s just uncomfortable, necessary, but uncomfortable), stimulation of the prostate can feel really, really good.  Loaded with nerve endings there are two ways to reach it. One massaging between the back of the testicles and the anus, and the other, (only if you have short finger nails), but gentle stimulation inside by moving it slowly back and forth.  One of the top five most common phone sex fantasies (I would love to get a grant to study that), is men being penetrated by their partners a la strap on.  hey, if you want to do me there, I want to do you there….

They don’t know whay the prostate suddenly starts to enlarge, but it can hold toxins, and one of the best ways to "clean it out" is by regular, frequent ejaculations. That means, masturbating a few times a week if you don’t have a partner, or asking someone who likes you to help you out.  Tell them it’s medicinal, and your sex therapist told you to do it. 🙂

In the meanwhile, listen to my 90 second audio on the visit to the proctologist.

we know what you are doing in the shower

March 18, 2006

I had a conversation last night with a friend, and like most female conversations it didn’t take too long before it turned to kids, sex, and men. (the other popular topics include birthing stories, chocolate, spirituality and shoes…).  Anyway, she was telling me how her now teenage stepson is spending all of his time in the bathroom and using up all of the hot water.  I told her that it was normal and teenage boys masturbate at least once a day, usually in the shower.  She was floored that she hadn’t realized that was what he was doing, and no wonder her hot water bills were so high.

Isn’t that what all guys do in the shower?  I talk to people about sex all day long, every day and men masturbate regularly, and yes, especially in the shower.  The good news is that it’s good for you.  When I started as a sex therapist I used to espouse that sex felt good, was critical for your relationship, but now I tell people, it’s imperative for your health.  It’s at least as good for you as exercise (those 350-500 calorie boff’s), and forget an apple a day, it’s an orgasm a day.  For guys it keeps the pipes clean, scoures out the prostate and keeps your sperm fresh and your blood pressure healthy.  For women who masturbate, it keeps the vagina clean and just like a sneeze cleans out the sinus cavity, an orgasm cleans the snatch out of all those viruses, bacteria, and old sperm remnants. Women who give into the urge to play with themselves are 80% less likely to get a vaginal infection.  80%!!!!! Why aren’t there bus ads telling women this?  It’s like the girls who sit in the hot tub, (3rd spigot on the left shoots just the right way….), men in the shower are just emptying out the junk.  Even if it does increase the hydro bill.

Sue

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