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It’s not all in your head. Men, low libido, ED and Premature Ejaculation.

I often feel very badly for my male clients. While 80% of my low libido clients are women, more and more men are looking for solutions for their waning desires. I spend my days speaking to guys about the angst they feel about what amounts to massive pressure to perform sexually. Think about it. They have to get hard, stay hard, last long enough (but not too long), and to understand what their partners what without being told. All this while dealing with high cholesterol, blood pressure and stressful work situations. It is a myth that all men are horn dogs that want constant intimacy. Of the individuals I see for low libido, 20% of them are male. And they come into my office with frustrated partners who feel pushed away, unattractive and never know when intimacy is going to happen. I’m also finding more and more young men with symptoms that the Canadian Urological Association associates with low testosterone. Which include erectile problems as well as low libido and what I call “The Archie Bunker Syndrome. And the issues of erectile dysfunction from diabetes, anti-depressants has many men keeping a store of those little blue or gold pills in their medicine cabinet (Viagra or Cialis). There are some newer and very effective solutions for erectile dysfunction. If stress is responsible for 80% of all illnesses (it must be true, its printed on all the Lululemon bags) then impotence is certainly impacted by lifestyle, anxiety and worry that they have all the necessary moves in the bedroom. And then there are those one minute guys.There are some newer and very effective solutions for erectile dysfunction. If stress is responsible for 80% of all illnesses (it must be true, its printed on all the Lululemon bags) then impotence is certainly impacted by lifestyle, anxiety and worry. And then there are those one minute guys. Beyond the start/stop method (and nothing says PE like grabbing the base of your penis and freezing during intercourse), daily keegal exercises and lot of prayer, traditional sex therapy hasn’t offered much in the way of solutions.

Fortunately, there is more help in that department. The desensitizing creams have improved beyond the Stud 100 to the new Promescent spray that is far more effective. Many of my clients are on certain types of medications. Viagra, Cialis and the new Staxyn does slow down the process, but so does either percocet or tramadol.
I had one client review that said for PE, “percocet was fantastic. Best non-drunk sex I ever had.” But there are downsides to adding medications to your life. I work with physicians to help balance what’s going on with the psychology and techniques related to being quick off the mark beyond meds for the rest of your life. The only thing I do know that doesn’t work is to ignore the problem and hope it goes away on its own. For some problems that works. For libido, erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, I guarantee that it won’t. Send me a note, I can make it all go away and the next person who’ll be singing “Oh what a beautiful morning” skipping down the street will be you.

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