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Men, porn and daily masturbation

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Cartoon4  I have a new patient who I think is more typical than most women have any idea about. He’s a sweet guy, early 30’s, married, kids, and who’s wife caught him looking at internet porn and masturbating. Gasp! She was mortified, and made him feel humiliated and shameful. She thinks he’s a sex addict, and banished all porn and the internet from home, and severely limited the sex they had. I thought it was one of the cruelest things I heard about in awhile.  Many of the women I polled, or read about in chat rooms on the subject think that men looking at porn is degrading, repugnant and is a symptom of something wrong in their relationship and is a reflection on their own sex lives. I see daily porn with erotic stimulation as medically necessary and a normal part of men’s sexuality. My partner describes the difference between sex and masturbation as “gourmet food or water” you need both to live, and they feel completely different.  When I explain about the build up of fluid in the seminal vesicles, and the need to keep the pipes clean, most women look at me blankly. They simply don’t get how horny most guys are, and how they absolutely need visual stimulation to help them reach orgasm. It doesn’t mean that they don’t love, respect, or have hot sex with the women in their lives – but they NEED the release. As a rule, I think men are loyal, and try to be good partners. As a mother of a ten year old boy, I want my son to grow up knowing his body belongs to him, and that there are social conventions (no masturbating in public, or talking about it in front of his grandmother), but I cringe at the thought of his innate sexuality being reamed out because a partner defines their’s differently.

I think my patient may explode sometime soon. Without a release, I believe that any healthy adult man will find another outlet to get relief. I’ve said it before, if you think someone isn’t getting any – you are probably wrong. And somebody is buying some of the the five billion dollars the adult industry produces each year.