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New research in sex

feet66I think every University psychology student wants to study sex. It’s on their minds (constantly) and like anyone who is newly sexual, they think they have discovered how cool sex can be. But the truth is that there is very little new in sex. No new parts, no new names for sexual responses and very few true innovations in the world of sex toys. Sure there are 400 different varieties but they all basically either insert or vibrate in different colors. For men, sex toys are a variation on a tube and a hole.
But sometimes with all of those psychology and med students looking into how we respond between our knees and our waists there are occasionally new insights. Here are some of the results that may impact how we reproduce. Or at least try to.
1. How much light there is in your bedroom affects your sexual desire and fertility.
Women used to menstruate during the new moon (when it’s dark at night) and ovulate during a full moon (when it’s light). Now with late night television, and phone and computer screens constantly giving off light, our fertility –and desire can get out of whack. Be aware of your bedroom lighting. And get the television out of there. There is actually proof now that the light affects your sex life.

2. And now we have a new STI to be worried about.
It turns out Ebola can be transmitted sexually. Even up to three months after a patient has recovered. Now we need our own check lists for people who have visited East Africa.

3. Women can get pregnant five to eight days after having sex
Studies have shown that some sperm can live in the cervical mucus crypt before the egg is actually fertilized for anywhere from five to eight days after sex. It used to be that women could only get pregnant on the day of ovulation and had to be concerned the four preceding days as well, as sperm can live in the fallopian tubes that long. Now it turns out that the sperm is in storage much longer until the optimum fertilization time.

4. Wearing high heels can negatively affect a woman’s orgasm
There are shoes that create a heightened arch in the foot. The heels create a contraction in the pelvic floor, which is problematic because the pelvic floor then cannot contract further during orgasm. Who knew that the arch in women’s feet contract during orgasm?

5. Orgasms can make women more creative
Studies have shown that orgasms can make women more confident, productive and creative. And it’s a feedback loop—women achieve fuller orgasms when they are being creative.

6. Women have three erogenous zones
The clitoris, the G Spot, AND around the opening of the cervix which is sometimes called the X spot. Some argue nipples belong on that list too.

7. Nerve endings are distributed differently in every woman’s vagina
Like a snowflake, each woman is unique in that her nerve endings are distributed in her genitalia differently than anyone else. That means every woman needs to employ slightly different methods to achieve orgasm.

8. Another reason to drink more water. Being well hydrated leads to better orgasms
Because the body is mostly fluid, being hydrated enhances people’s ability to achieve orgasm.

9. Most woman can achieve orgasm
Almost no woman was born unable to achieve an orgasm. “Women have the innate machinery programmed to have orgasms,” “But not everybody learns how to use that machinery well.”

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